One Split Second
Travel June 19th, 2009
This isn’t a humor piece, but I’ve been bothered by an event that happened this morning and felt better writing about it.
I wanted to share it with you because it reminds me of the fragility of life as I know it and how one fraction of a second made the difference between me having a normal day and my husband getting a dreaded phone call.
Friday began like every other work day.
Cup of coffee, feed the cats, some blog stuff, shower and jump in my car. The most remarkable thing about my ride to work was that I got an early start. I would soon wish I hadn’t.
Somebody else was heading to work, too. Someone who should have had his eyes on the road instead of his head in the clouds.
I know people get distracted while driving and cause accidents.
I know that 40,000 people die on U.S. roads each year in car crashes.
I know lots of unlucky people before me have found themselves in the path of an errant driver and never lived to tell about it.
But it’s always other people.
Today I was almost one of them.
On a green light, I approached an intersection near work. As I pulled through and made a left turn, I saw a pickup truck to my left. Coming on fast. I’m not a sitting duck. I’m moving, thank God. I know I’m moving, but am I moving fast enough?
I hear his tires screeching. Might not be enough time. I see the grill of his truck. It’s close. Very close. Are we gonna hit? I start to think this is my unlucky day. God? You there? Help me out here.
In a moment that lasted an eternity, I could see the face of this distracted man, who is now no longer distracted.
He looks at me, and I at him. Our eyes are wide. Our mouths agape. I clear his front bumper by mere inches. I scream and lay on the horn. I glance back. I see he landed askew in the middle of the intersection. I quickly check to see if he still had a red light. Was it me who screwed up?
No. His light was redder than red. And he didn’t even see it.
I consider if I had entered the intersection one moment later. A single second later and someone would be calling my "in case of emergency" number.
I wanted to pull over, get out and scream at him. I wanted to let him know that someone almost had to peel me off his truck. I wanted to tell him to pay attention next time. Every time, dammit, because all it takes is one moment of inattentiveness to change someone’s life.
But I didn’t. I drove on. Slow and shaky. Nothing happened. No harm, no foul.
Except it could have so easily been different.
If not for ONE. SPLIT. SECOND.
Stumble it!






June 19th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
OMG Kathy, thank goodness (or whatever else you may believe in) for split seconds.
Yep. It only takes a second to change the entire world.
Glad you are okay (shaken, but un-injured). Take care.
June 19th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
oh my gosh!! how frightening! i am so glad you are ok. i certainly hope that ding dong learned his lesson. phew! take a deep breath and relax this weekend!
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hugs,
puglette
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June 19th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
There was an angle with you this morning. I am glad to hear you are okay!!
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June 19th, 2009 at 9:42 pm
Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this or that. James 4:14-15
I’m glad you’re ok.
June 19th, 2009 at 10:42 pm
I’ve felt compelled to leave earlier or later on some occasions and later learned of an accident in the spot where I might have been.
You never know, I guess when it’s your time to go, it’s time to go. This wasn’t your time. Glad you made it through!
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June 19th, 2009 at 10:53 pm
Kathy: We all are very glad that you are all right. As one of my favorite bands, King’s X sings in one of my favorite songs by them, “Flies and Blue Skies”: “There is life, there is death/ and the difference between either one is one single breath.” Sometimes it behooves us to remember that. I’m sorry that it had to happen that way, though, for you to be reminded of life’s fragility.
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June 19th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
Oh geez. I bet that scared the business out of you. I am so glad you are okay and in one piece. (((HUGS)))
Jessica
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June 19th, 2009 at 11:58 pm
Here and gone in a flash. Glad you’re still here
P.S. This school year is becoming a distant memory ~ time to start blogging again! I’ve been pretty quiet, but I’ve been keeping my eye on you
June 20th, 2009 at 12:41 am
Scary story! It happens all too often. My son was driving with my wife and one daughter in the car last year and going through a green light a car turned right in front of them. They spun out avoiding the daydreaming driver and fortunately hit nothing.
Just a few days ago I left the house and was the 3rd car waiting to turn right at the light at the end of the street. There is usually no cars ahead of us at that light so in normal circumstances I would have been first. We all turned right and 200 yards down the road a car coming i the opposite direction turned right in front of the lead car which broadsided it and spun into the other lane and collided with a third car. All three cars totaled and me left watching thinking I am so thankful I was not first at the light that day.
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June 20th, 2009 at 6:35 am
Maureen — That is exactly what stayed with me all day, and even into today. Another “time & luck” story I can’t shake is about a local woman who was killed when a piper plane fell out of the sky. A young pilot who just got his license was flying over her house, had trouble and plummeted to the ground. The woman pulled out of her garage at that exact moment and the plane crashed onto her car and killed her. If she had left her house a minute earlier, she’d have been fine.
Puglette — Thanks and yes, I think he must have learned his lesson. I’ve no doubt he remembers the look of fear on my face as we passed each other. At least I hope he learned his lesson.
The Mind of a Mom — I’m a big believer in angels over our shoulders. Why not? I can’t explain it otherwise. Somebody was looking out for me.
misspiggytoes — You just gave me chills. That is exactly the feeling I had all day yesterday. It made me think of all the unlucky people who’ve been at the wrong place and the wrong time through no fault of their own. It’s times like this that make me think “What if this was it?” Did I do everything I wanted to do?
MA Fat Woman — Yep, me too. That happened to my sister, niece and me when we drove home from our trip to Toronto last summer. I remember my sister wanting to leave a rest stop sooner than we did. When we got on the road, we passed an accident that had clearly just happened. Could have been us.
Unfinished Rambler — Oh, it behooves us all right. I thought about that all day and still today. Part of why I got so upset is that we all get out on the roads and don’t think hard enough about being behind the wheel of something that can kill a person. I mean, 40,000 people die every year. Have we gotten so used to it? Hard to shake those statistics if you really think about it.
Jessica — It did indeed. I continued onto my office building a couple blocks away in a haze. Then when I walked to my office, I got a little weepy. Delayed reaction, I guess.
Mama O — Yep, everybody be careful out there, ya hear?
Will — I’m glad for your wife and daughter, and you too. That’s exactly how I felt — time and place and luck kept me from being a mangled mess. Freaks me out when I consider the ‘what ifs.’
June 20th, 2009 at 6:35 am
Kathy, I’m really glad you came through safely. My mom and sister were in a really serious T-bone accident at an intersection a few years ago. My mom almost didn’t make it, but she’s back to about 98% now. Scary stuff.
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June 20th, 2009 at 6:45 am
reminds me about the “always wear sunscreen” video I just happened to watch again, a couple of days ago
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
June 20th, 2009 at 6:47 am
I’ve had a few of those near-misses. Really.Scary.
It was bad enough before – but now there are cell phones and texting, worrying about everything from paying their bills, keeping their kids in school and out of trouble, the state of the economy and precarious state of the world…
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June 20th, 2009 at 6:52 am
darn this had me shaking. very scary kathy. makes you wonder, if something had happened, what you could have done differently that morning or if only you left a few seconds later. accidents do cross my mind when i get in the car and i wonder if this is it. you can’t really avoid accidents, sometimes stuff happens, but if that man was not paying attention, then that’s on purpose.
glad you’re safe!
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June 20th, 2009 at 7:11 am
Very glad you didn’t get hurt Kathy. It’s been a long time but I was in a bad accident and it’s no fun!
June 20th, 2009 at 7:18 am
I know exactly what that slow and shaky feeling is – because I wasn’t so lucky a few years ago.
We were green going straight on, guy on opposite side turned left too soon. Brakes didn’t work as it was raining !
I am glad you are alright ! What a terrible way to begin a weekend !
{{Hugs}}
June 20th, 2009 at 7:23 am
Oh, my heart is pounding. Thank God you are OK. That’s the sort of thing that can leave you shaken and freaked out for days. Not only are you mentally realizing how close you came, but your body is probably still shooting out adrenalin over that close call.
Someone was looking out for you. Or maybe it was just a matter of one split second. Either way: PHEW!
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June 20th, 2009 at 7:29 am
I’m really glad you’re okay, those what ifs can really get to us and shake us to our core.
Recently, we had one of those near hits ourselves. I was walking home with my 3 year old in the jogging stroller. We started crossing the street and in the middle, the front wheel got snagged in a crack or something and popped off. The momentum caused the stroller to flip forward so that if the baby hadn’t been strapped in his head would have crashed into the road. I’d very nearly not buckled him because he was putting up such a fuss and we were only walking 2 blocks.
So, I look up and see that the cars that had been plenty far away were now much, much closer and I’m screaming at them “NO NO” Luckily, they were all paying attention and stopped in plenty of time, and people came from office buildings to help me and it all worked out okay, but I imagine the drivers of those cars were as shaken as I was.
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:00 am
::shivers:: All I can say is, thank Cod you are okay. I hope that taught the other driver a strong lesson to pay attention at the wheel!
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:35 am
Second time reading this and I still don’t know what to say – other than “super glad it was a miss”…
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:46 am
That is harrowing. I had a nearly identical experience exactly two years ago. I had driven ten hours in one day, through four states, and when I was five minutes from home a careless driver nearly made roadkill of me. The way you described yourself making eye contact with the harebrained other driver, sounding the horn, driving away shaken … yeah, that was me. I know that feeling.
I’m glad you’re okay, Kathy!
On May 14th ’09 my son and a buddy were in their work truck driving from one tree-trimming job to the next when a 62-year-old lady lost control of her car and hit them head-on. She was killed. There was speculation she may have suffered a heart attack before the impact. Thank God for seatbelts as my son (who was not driving) and his friend suffered only minor injuries. But he said exactly what you did: One split second, Mom! What if we had stayed at the other job one minute longer! The lady was 1/4 mile from her driveway when the accident occurred.
Life comes down to a few moments. This is one of them.
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:50 am
Scary stuff-I am so glad you are ok!
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:54 am
Kathy, I left a response yesterday, but it disappeared somehow. Too long probably.
Anyway, the bottom line was I am so glad you are safe and sound. Be good to yourself today and remind yourself that you ARE alright and try to feel safe again. We need that sense of safety to get through life.
Best, Marie
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June 20th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Very vivid and scary description of your ‘split second’ makes a difference post…so glad that you are okay and that you are SUCH A GOOD DEFENSIVE DRIVER!!!!
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June 20th, 2009 at 9:33 am
Sorry you had to go through that, Kathy and, obviously I’m glad you’re ok. I’m forwarding your post to my 23- & 19-year-old children. I’m always nervous that they’ll be the driver of either vehicle in a story like yours that has a different ending.
June 20th, 2009 at 9:45 am
I’m glad you’re safe. In the 20 years I’ve lived here, I’ve been close to two serious accidents, both at the same intersection. Once was the car in front of me venturing (on a green light – the car before him had gone already) and getting smashed by a redlight runner.
The other was someone turning left at that same intersection and slamming into the car to my left who didn’t swerve so he didn’t hit me.
I hate that intersection. Neither time, though, was anyone seriously hurt.
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June 20th, 2009 at 10:35 am
That would leave anyone shaking for hours. So glad you are all right!
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June 20th, 2009 at 10:40 am
Thank god nothing happened.
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June 20th, 2009 at 10:50 am
Holy crap, Kathy…sooo glad that all turned out okay. You must be shaken to your core, scared out of your wits in the moment and now, thinking about what coulda been. Yeah, life is precious. Too bad that all don’t keep that in mind while driving…
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June 20th, 2009 at 11:04 am
Wow, very glad it wasn’t worse. I often wonder about how many times we dodge a bullet, though. If I hadn’t had to go back to the house because I forgot my briefcase, would that extra thirty seconds have put me in harm’s way? We’ll never know, of course, but when something tragic happens, it’s scary to think about how it might’ve been avoided by even the most innocuous of events.
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June 20th, 2009 at 11:15 am
I’m so glad you are OK. A couple years ago I was hit by a car pulling out of a road. The way she hit me knocked me down the street. If either one of us had been going faster — if I had been hit a second sooner or later, it could have been much worse. If my car had spun around. . . who knows what might have happened. It is a real eye opening experience, that is for sure.
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June 20th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Wow. I don’t know if I am doing something wrong, but my comments are not appearing. They look like they are there when I leave, but when I’ve come back to read other comments, they are gone.
Not that every word falling from my lips is a pearl,lol, but I am getting a complex. lol
Kathy, I am SO glad you are ok. I’ve said that a bunch of different ways now. Maybe the system just wants me to be succinct. lol
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June 20th, 2009 at 12:15 pm
You had an angel watching over you and I’m so glad my son Daniel was killed in a car he was driving 17 years ago he was 17 years old. To this moment my heart is sad I try to focus on the blessed 17 years I had him and some days it’s good others it’s not I tell myself God needed Daniel that day.
Hugs that your alright and blessings for many more days..
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
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June 20th, 2009 at 12:40 pm
I believe that “near misses” are intentional acts of God to wake us up, to spur us into action, or whatever His intention is. (See what happened – He reminded all your readers of our fragility through you!)When I experience these kinds of things, I remind myself that I am supposed to learn from the experience. Glad you are ok. Thanks for sharing…it has all woken us up, even for a day.
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June 20th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
so glad nobody was hurt and no cars collided. life is fragile, and can change in an instant. i think we all too easily forget that sometimes.
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June 20th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
It was blogging that took up that extra second. Thanks goodness you are ok.
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June 20th, 2009 at 1:56 pm
absepa — I’m sorry about your mom and sister’s accident and that your mom was injured. I’m glad it wasn’t worse. My fear is a t-bone accident on my side of the car. I have no idea how reinforced my doors are. Probably not enough.
TwiHouse/Alan — OMG! Everybody go watch that video! I can see why this reminded you of that. It sums it up perfectly. Perspective. All about perspective.
Barb WillThink4Wine — Yes, all that AND more cars on the road. (I know, I sound like an old lady). It seems like driving to and from work is a sport now. I remember when it wasn’t.
Natural — Yep, what if? What if? And that’s the thing. I know accidents happen. Read about them all the time. Somehow I’ve managed to avoid them. But I wonder about the odds and when it’ll be my turn. But I try not to think about it much or else I’d never get in my car again.
Document Scanning Services — Thanks and sorry to hear of your accident. Frankly, I’m surprised I’m making it this long without one. Watch. I probably just jinxed myself.
Jaffer — All too common description. People don’t tend to give enough attention to the road conditions. Sorry you got in the other guy’s path, but I’m glad you came out of it fine.
JD at I Do Things — Yes, it’s still with me today. Hopefully tomorrow I can think of something funny to think about. I was shaken when I got to my office. Weepy actually. I can replay the moment over and over, and what always comes back to me is ‘what if?’
Tracy — Oh, boy, so scary. And you’re right, it’s easy for one time to let your guard down and not buckle in. Everybody here wears their seat belts, RIGHT? You were fortunate and I’m sure you don’t forget the feeling of good luck that everything went as it did.
Daisy the Curly Cat — I hope it did, too. But I’m afraid he’ll just go on like we all do and say “It’s OK. Nothing happened.” It should stand as a warning and make us all more attentive drivers, yes?
Grace — I’m super glad, too. Not everyone is so lucky.
Jenny — Yep, and you’ll never forget it either. I’m sorry to read about the woman who died in that accident. And I’m also sorry that your son has that on his mind now. I never want to be involved in an accident, and God forbid it be my fault. Even though it wasn’t your son’s, he still has to have the memory of it. Scary stuff.
Jessica — Thanks. I am too. It reminded me to not take driving so casually. You never know when all your skills will have to come into play. God, and now I’m thinking, what if I was going slower? What if someone was coming the other way and they didn’t see him? So many variables.
Marie — I’m sorry you got caught in my spam filter. I pulled you out and it’s supposed to “learn” not to do that again. You’re right about not thinking too much about it (although I am, responding to these comments). I promise I won’t think so hard about it that it makes me a ball of nerves driving again.
amy lilley — Thanks! I think I was lucky more than defensive, although I do like to think that I am in other situations. I’m a careful driver and pride myself on that. And I don’t talk on a cell phone while driving. That’s like a cardinal sin to me. BTW, the other guy wasn’t on a cell. If he was, I might have actually gotten out of my car and shoved it down his throat.
RGeagan — Thanks for spreading the word. I was hoping that maybe some who read this would remember it at a time when it could make a difference. One other piece of advice I like to follow: Wait a beat before pulling through an intersection when the light changes green. I do that and saved myself from getting crunched by a guy who ran his red light. One tiny moment can save a life.
Stephanie Barr — Right! See above response. The red light runners always think “it’ll be OK just this once.” I bet you avoid that intersection whenever possible. Sounds like it needs an overhaul.
Cats~Goats~Quotes — Yes, it’s stayed with me a long time unfortunately (or fortunately?)
navin — Got that right. I’m happy that I posted an “almost miss” post instead of a “I got smooshed” post.
earthtoholly — You’re right. Everybody just jumps in the car and heads out. We should think about it like we’re driving a deadly piece of equipment, which it is for many unfortunate people. I’m struck by the statistic that 40k people die every year in the States alone. Why aren’t we more careful???
Chris — You bring up the flipside to this. That there are bad events we miss by being early or late by minutes or seconds. Think 911 and the people who had off work or were late for work that day. Or people who missed their flights.
Lisa — I’m sorry you were in an accident. I’m glad you can still look at the bright side. I wondered if Friday was “my day” for an accident. The odds keep bothering me.
Dorothy Stahlnecker — I’m so sorry about your son, Daniel. I can’t imagine the pain or know the rollercoaster of emotion you go through since then. Hugs and blessings.
Kathy at A Little Pinch of This and That — I believe that too. We all need a little wake up call. I do hope that those who read this will take extra care on the roads. You really never know when one second of time will make the difference.
erin — Exactly! And I won’t soon forget it.
grannyann — Ah, but I should have blogged more! Then I would have been later!
June 20th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
i am glad you are okay , some people should not be aloud to drive.
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June 20th, 2009 at 6:53 pm
I wish I could give you a big hug!
I am glad I wasn’t losing my mind! Thank you for letting me know that there was a reason I was disappearing.
But mostly I want to remind you to think of how many times you have successfully gone through intersections. And how many times you will again. And again and again.
Get some funny movies and have a drink and enjoy your husband’s company and you will be yourself in no time. (Have you ever seen Dinner at Eight? BRILLIANT!)
Be well.
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June 20th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
Oh Kathy! I bet that was a real shock to your system. So glad you wasn’t hurt. Things like that do shake us up for a day or two though.
I knew somebody who killed some people because he glanced off the road for a split second to put the music on in his car. He was on the motorway and didn’t see a car coming off the slip road.
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June 20th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Oh, Kathy!
I am so, so relieved to know you are alright!
Life is so fragile. You’re right, one split second and all could change.
I’m saying a prayer of thanks that you are here!
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June 21st, 2009 at 12:00 am
Glad you’re okay.
25 years ago on the way to school a truck jack-knifed in front of us. We stopped less than 10 feet from him (and probably a lot closer!) If Dad had decided to drive our huge convertible that day instead of the Rabbit, we’d have hit him due to sheer momentum. As it was, we were pretty shaken by the near miss.
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June 21st, 2009 at 5:52 am
I know what you mean, Kathy.
I am not willing to share a story of some relatives of mine who faced this ‘split of second’ but all I’ve to say is I discovered that our entire life has it’s own ‘split of seconds’ in everything not just traffic accidents.
Cheer up!
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June 21st, 2009 at 8:49 am
I am so glad it was just a close call. I feel a rant coming on…but I’ll resist because this is your blog and not mine. North Carolina recently passed a law that as of January 1, 2010, it will be illegal to text while driving. The biggest thing that bothers me about this law is that there was a need for it to begin with. It’s amazing that people are that stupid.
I wish they had gone a step further and banned using cell phones while driving without a hands-free device. Talking on a cell phone is never a good idea, but at least with a hands free device THEY CAN STILL USE TURN SIGNALS!! On second thought, people probably still wouldn’t use the signals.
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June 21st, 2009 at 10:32 am
So glad to have found your site. I’ve only read a few posts and I am hooked. I see there is a treasure trove of posts and so I have lots of work to do.
Thanks for visiting me too!
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June 21st, 2009 at 11:41 am
First, thankfully, everything turned out ok.
Now, I’m going into full Dad mode (hey it’s Father’s Day, I get to lecture everyone)
Especially in the morning, never assume the car approaching a red light will stop. Take the extra seconds and look for signs they are stopping, such as slowing down, etc.
Mrs. learned that lesson when her car was totalled. I know two other drivers also had a car totalled the same way, one a friend, one I witnessed from across the street.
A few seconds could save your life.
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June 21st, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Thank God you’re OK. I had that happen a year ago: our driveway was off a main route where people could drive 65 mph. As I was waiting to turn left into the driveway for people coming the other way, I saw in my rear view mirror that some truck was coming up too fast behind my stopped car, unaware that I was stopped…I ended uphaving to gun it and veer off the road – he would have crushed me. I was so shaken I caled my husband crying. To this day he doesn’t really get it: you KNOW when you were close to dying. Thank you to allour angels
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June 21st, 2009 at 3:25 pm
I am happy to hear that NOTHING did happen. Its really is amazing how ONE SECOND can be the difference between life and death.
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June 21st, 2009 at 7:24 pm
It’s okay, Kathy–breathe deep. I’m so glad that you are okay and yes, you did clear the unthinkable in seconds. But the important thing is that you DID escape and are okay. People make mistakes and intentionally do things other than just drive every day. I’m scared to death driving these days and so is my teen–everyone seems to be doing something besides just driving.
Just take a few deep breaths, say a couple “thank you” prayers and hug everyone around you and tell them you love them. It wasn’t your time yet, that’s all. I’m very glad you are safe.
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June 21st, 2009 at 7:28 pm
m.pink — I agree. I’d say “There should be a test before you’re allowed.” But there is! And people obviously forget everything they’ve learned.
Marie — Yep, the great majority of the times we get in our cars, nothing happens. But I did hear from a fellow blogger who got sideswiped the very same morning, at almost the same time! Chances are, it’ll happen at least once to everyone. Shame. I did have a very nice weekend. Went out Saturday night with the hubs.
Babs Beetle — Yes, a shock indeed. It was weird how I had a delayed reaction. I carried onto work, but then was kind of out of it for a while. Oh, geez. Sad story. You’ve illustrated that all it takes is one moment of inattentiveness to change someone’s life, and the lives of their families and friends.
Ferd — It is so fragile, we so often forget though. I took this as a sign to sit back and remember that.
Ladybugg — Wow, scary story. See how time and luck are such big factors in our every day lives? It’s amazing when you think about it.
Hicham — Absolutely. And they can be “good split seconds,” too. Depends on the circumstances.
Lee — Oh, rant away. You know I welcome that here. I think I’ve written here before that I won’t talk on a cell phone while driving, nor do I appreciate when others do it. Hands-free isn’t all that much better, studies show, because you are still mentally distracted.
Mason — Oh, Mason. I adore you and I wish you much success with your blog. You are now on my must-see list. You crack me up to no end.
Joe — You are so right!! I always skip a beat before pulling forward through a green since the one time a would have gotten creamed by a red light runner had I pulled forward when I had the right to. That taught me a big lesson. Glad the Mrs. was OK, but how frightening!
HappyHourSue — Holy crap. I know that event must stay with you. And thank God you saw him coming and had room to do something about it. Years ago a local man died in a horrible accident on a highway bridge when a dump truck didn’t slow for a long line of stopped cars. He didn’t stand a chance. Had nowhere to go on the bridge. Ugh.
Meleah Rebeccah — Me too! Now everybody be careful out there!
Lin — I’m happy it turned out the way it did and it’ll always remind me to look and listen extra carefully. The cell phone thing really has to stop. I don’t know how many states have outlawed it, but I’m certain more will follow suit. Too risky.
June 21st, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Holy crap, that was close huh? I’ve been on the receiving end of a drunk driver. Fortunately everyone involved walked away. But it sure gets the adrenalin flowing when when you realize they’re coming right atcha. Glad you’re here to write about it Kathy.
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June 21st, 2009 at 8:39 pm
There’s a song about “what a difference a day makes.” But, you’re right. Even a second can make such a difference. Just the blink of an eye, and so much changes. Glad you made it.
Sherry at EX Marks the Spot
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June 21st, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Yep… These kinds of things always put existence into perspective, don’t they?
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June 22nd, 2009 at 7:11 am
kinda puts things into perspective
June 22nd, 2009 at 7:26 am
Just wanted to say I’m really glad you did not get hurt. I saw a woman get t-boned the exact same way a few years ago, and she was not so lucky, so I’m really sensitive to intersections. I’m now one of those “jerks” who slows down slightly while going through a green light. Oh well, the world will just have to deal with me – but maybe it’ll help me live to blog another day.
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June 22nd, 2009 at 8:29 am
Thank God you are OK. We’ve had a couple close calls, and a couple calls, too, so I can relate. Frightful indeed. God’s not done with you yet, girl!
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June 22nd, 2009 at 10:50 am
I found myself holding my breath while reading this. Thank goodness you’re okay!
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June 22nd, 2009 at 3:06 pm
I feel your pain. I have come so close so many times with encounters with Idiot drivers. So glad it worked out for you. Take care.
Beamer
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June 22nd, 2009 at 3:24 pm
I’m so glad you’re OK. I totally understand the desire to jump out of the car and yell and scream at the other driver. I’m afraid if it had been me I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from doing just that!
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June 22nd, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I say we go get that guy.
Look, we know he drives a pickup: simplify the whole time-consuming process of actually looking for a specific jerk, and focus on apprehending everyone that drives a pickup -specifically the ones that won’t help you move, and treat you like a jerk for asking!
How many can there be? Maybe fifteen? Twenty?
I hate those guys.
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June 23rd, 2009 at 9:57 am
I’m so glad you’re okay. These incidents are very scary – I’ve been in a very serious accident where someone in the other car died (it was the driver who caused the wreck, and not his grand-daughter, thank the Lord) – and for years I thought about all the things that happened that day to cause us to be in just the right/wrong place at just the right/wrong time for that to happen.
I’m glad it was just a near miss -
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June 23rd, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Glad you’re okay. You made me think of my DVR.Had you two connected, there was no rewinding. Some of the worst drivers are experienced drivers. Because they know it all!
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June 23rd, 2009 at 3:41 pm
What a scary story and I am so happy to hear you were not hurt. All it takes is one second, though, to make a difference. I think we all have similar stories to tell and each experience is truly scary.
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June 23rd, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Hi Kathy,
Not a funny post at all, but one of your better ones (though they are all great)… a good reminder that life can change in a second. I had a similar experience a few weeks ago of nearly getting hit while making a left turn on a green light. Someone wasn’t paying attention and almost ran the red. I think I saw him out of the corner of my eye just as he hit the brakes. It wasn’t as close as yours, but made me very shaky as I continued on my way.
There will always be those drivers, so it is important reminder to drive defensively.
Great post. Glad you’re ok. Steve
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June 24th, 2009 at 4:41 am
Marsha — Oh, sorry to hear about the drunk driver. That’s a fear of mine, too. At least in my case, the other driver wasn’t drunk and could engage his reflexes quickly enough to avoid an accident. Glad it turned out all right for you!
Sherry at EX Marks the Spot — You know it.
John J Savo — Loudly and clearly.
luke at web design leeds — Ditto.
Jeff — I’m one of those people too. But never fear. I guarantee our slowness will save someone an accident (likely ourselves) one day.
Crabby Blogging Lady — Glad you had only close calls. Hope you never have a real one.
kathcom — I’m glad this post was only about a near miss and not making contact. Crosses fingers I’ll never have one.
Beamer — I think we all have. And let’s hope they’re all misses!
Elizabeth — Wanna know the reason I didn’t? I thought that could get me beat up. A man just died the other day in a road rage incident. Chased a woman down the highway who flipped him the bird, and then he lost control and rolled his car. Cripes.
LOBO — All I remember was that it was red. Is that sufficient?
Wendy — Oh, man. So sorry to hear that. I don’t know how well I would handle things if I was in a car crash where someone died. Even if it wasn’t my fault. That’s gotta stay with you.
LaTonya — Good analogy. And you’re right. I think everyone gets complacent.
Preston — And that’s why I wanted to write about it. To remember all those close calls and maybe keep them in mind whenever we get in the car.
Trade Show Guru Steve — Ah, you and I had the same experience. I’m glad neither turned into anything remarkable, but it’s good to always be reminded that a normal, boring day could turn into something so much different.
June 24th, 2009 at 5:47 am
This is proof positive that each and every moment of life should be spent enjoying the things you do, loving the people your with and living each moment with enjoyment!
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June 25th, 2009 at 8:36 am
That is a scary and all too common occurrence. I have had that exact thought – what if I had been there a second earlier? Or later? So far I have been lucky, but many aren’t. I was reading yesterday on another blog that Florida traffic accident deaths are outstripping the national average. I think you have be careful no matter where you are, though.
June 29th, 2009 at 7:26 am
There is actually a fictional story written by a Chinese author about this exact same thing, except, the car actually hits him. And now he’s a paraplegic and he keeps replaying in his mind, what if I had just done something slower that day I wouldn’t have been hit. He then goes on and on about the unfairness of life as he dreams about what he could have become were it not for that accident.
It ends as bleakly as it starts.
Even though I don’t know you, I’m glad you’re ok. It’s a weird thing I think, that we’re connected as human beings in that way. Wishing you many beautiful and grateful days ahead.
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July 1st, 2009 at 6:27 pm
Megaman the Madman — No truer words have been written.
Lorrine — Yes, I’ve read how horrible travel is in Florida. I don’t understand why we don’t do more to curb the massacre on our roads!
Fanny — Wow, what a powerful story. I’m glad it’s only fiction, but how many people are living that very nightmare? Thank you for your kind words.
August 1st, 2009 at 8:22 pm
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