I Conquered Another Fear!
Stuff I hate, Travel December 22nd, 2009Some of you might know that one of my biggest fears was to fly on a plane all by myself. I managed to show that fear who’s boss last summer when I attended a blogging conference in Chicago. Let me tell you, I felt like a superstar getting that behind me. Kathy, 1. Fear, 0.
Unfortunately, I’ve got other fears, one of them heights, which was triggered when I walked over a bridge with my husband Dave in the Bahamas circa 1995.
We walked along just fine, until Dave exclaimed “Look! The water is beautiful!” I turned my head to take in the view and promptly lost my mind. I had to run over to the other side of the bridge and take a cab ride back.
There were to be no more walks over bridges for me.
Until today.
For years I avoided joining some of my coworkers who would take walks over the bridge for exercise or to enjoy their lunch hours at a summer music festival held every year on the other side of it. I simply could not fathom walking across that bridge. No how, no way.
But it bugged me that I couldn’t — wouldn’t — do something so simple as to walk across that thing. I mean, it’s just a sidewalk, albeit a sidewalk high in the air.
So I made a decision today to join my coworker Heather for a walk around town and a stroll across The Bridge. I’m pleased to report that I made it without crying in hysterics or having a panic attack.
Were there challenges? Yes. Did I sweat like a pig, even though it was only 20 degrees out? Yes. Oink.
If I looked to the left, there was fear of being so high up. Sure, there’s a railing there, but still. It’s the only thing between me and DYING.
If I looked to the right, I felt the closeness and rush of cars whizzing by and worried that I’d somehow fall over the guardrail, get hit by a car and DIE.
I had two choices: either look straight down at the sidewalk or look way, way off to the distance so that I didn’t have either death threat in my peripheral vision. I alternated between both methods until I reached the other side.
And thanks to my trusty co-pilot Heather, who gave me words of encouragement the whole time and notified me when we were and weren’t over water, it was almost a piece of cake.
If any of you have fears that keep you from enjoying life to its fullest, there’s pretty much only one way around it. You have to stare down that fear and kick its ass to the curb.
I know it sounds easier said than done, but I’m here to tell you that I thought I might die today and I didn’t!
Not dying is awesome, but living with one less fear feels even awesomer.
Stumble it!








December 22nd, 2009 at 7:33 pm
Good for you:-) I have a few of fears myself, but one step to overcome them is a start. I still have trouble in Malls, even though I go I can still feel and hear my heart beating. May one day You will be able to walk across by yourself and I’ll be able to spend more than 20 minutes in a Mall by myself:-)
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December 22nd, 2009 at 8:00 pm
NOW you and Dave should come back to the PA Grand Canyon in high summer and gaze over the very sturdy railing into the gorgeous, yawning depths of pine scent and sun and flowers. I’ll cook for you.
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December 22nd, 2009 at 8:06 pm
Oh you are brave Kathy! I have the same fear. At least I think it’s a fear. I get extremely giddy when up high, so there is a real threat of me falling off whatever it is. I can’t even enjoy walking along the clifftops because it’s spoiled by this awful giddy feeling. Well done you!
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December 22nd, 2009 at 8:16 pm
Way to go Kathy!
Here are some people who agree with me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxojHwStGjc&feature=related
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December 22nd, 2009 at 8:19 pm
I’m a scaredy cat with bridges and water too, esp in a car. It’s like, two…two …two fears in one. The nightmare of the bridge collapsing magnified by the fear of drowning while entombed in the car. Lovely.
However I have successfully driven over the Tappen Zee bridge and the Chesapeake Bay Bridge-Tunnel. Do they give out prizes for that? Actually they should hand out nerve pills at the entrances….or cocktails as you exit…
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:26 pm
I know I was scared of roller coasters until my friends dragged me on one at Hershey Park. I was screaming the whole time and they just laughed at me.
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:06 pm
My goal this year is to get over my fear of driving over the bridge that spans the mississipi so that I can finally go west.
I think the key will be to convince myself to keep my eyes open the whole time.
They are doing major construction on the bridge so I have a bit of a reprieve.
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:07 pm
I’m irrationally afraid of sharks. And I’m at a loss about how to conquer that fear short of offering myself up as a snack. Guess I’ll just live with it.
The good news is that it rarely intrudes on my day to day life.
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December 22nd, 2009 at 10:11 pm
Congratulations to you, Kathy. Another fear down…now like my wife said, you need to return to the Pennsylvania Grand Canyon and look into the maw of death!!!! Oh, I mean, look at the beauty of the canyon…:)
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December 22nd, 2009 at 10:17 pm
BRAVA Kathy!
You GO, girl!
Hey listen, I totally share your fear of flying, but like you have learned to conquer it. Mainly, because I hate being afraid of things. And also, because I had the chance to visit Japan and couldn’t see giving it up (27 1/2 hours of flying). I also get a little fearful crossing a bridge. But what’s really weird is that I have no problem walking across them, but rather fear crossing them in a car.
Anyway, Kath…congrats! I’m proud of you!!!
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December 22nd, 2009 at 10:19 pm
Good for you! Was it the bridge that goes over to Paradise Island? I’ve walked that bridge because I am afraid of the water – a big, big boat is fine, sort of, but anything smaller than the QE2 gives me a panic attack.
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December 22nd, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Love the illustration. I have bridge-phobia. I have had to drive over them because it’s unavoidable as I live just south of the Missouri River and at one time pretty much everything I did here was just north of it but it was terribly frightening for me every single time. I could manage it if the weather was clear and there was no traffic. Add in either bad weather or a traffic jam and I’d have to pull over to have a panic attack.
December 22nd, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Yay! You rock!
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December 22nd, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Kathy, when i was in 5th grade my mom went on a school trip with my sister and I, to washington DC on the way she had to close her eyes and still nearly cried going over a bridge…IN THE BUS. She is terrified of hieghts which i explain because she is barely 5 foot, but she is even more terrified of water. Bridges are truly her nemisis.
Good job conquering your fears Keep it up!
December 22nd, 2009 at 11:40 pm
Congratulations. My secondary life motto is, “Don’t not do stuff you enjoy for stupid reasons.” As an added bonus, it hurts people’s heads to parse the negatives.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 12:13 am
Way to go!
Airplanes… now bridges… what will you conquer next!?!
You’re the greatest, Kathy!!!
xo\ (that last symbol is a pat on the back)
Merry Christmas!

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December 23rd, 2009 at 12:16 am
OMG and you even took a picture – I’m so proud of you – YAY!!!!
So, what’s next? Conquering your fear of eating too many Twinkies? That’s my fear too.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 1:29 am
That bridge looked pretty icy. You were flirting with doom. DOOM I SAY!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 1:38 am
Nice, this will be used a public service announcement type blog. i have a good buddy who can’t go over bridges without going into a comma. We’ve always had great laughs at his expense but enough is enough…your tactics will be employed.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 3:08 am
Congratulations. Pat yourself on the back for me. Tackling fears is difficult, isn’t it?
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December 23rd, 2009 at 3:11 am
Nice Going And have a Merry Christmas.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 5:36 am
I love the view of possible death over there on the right.
Okay, I am truly terrified of heights and I just saw an episode of 48 Hours where a chick was thrown to her death off of a very small balcony on the 104th floor.
My very. First. Thought. Was why would they have an accessible balcony on the 104th floor?! So I’m not walkin’ on that bridge with you, but congratulations!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 5:37 am
I used to have a terrible fear of heights, I don’t know if was the fear of falling or the fear of hitting the ground, but then a friend helped me face my fear and it is better, I still get a twinge when I’m high up, but no panic attacks
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
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December 23rd, 2009 at 6:15 am
That is super that you walked across the bridge. Good job. It does really make you feel good to face your fears and conquer them.
And a very Merry Christmas to you. I really enjoy your blog
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December 23rd, 2009 at 6:17 am
Hey, Everybody! Thanks for all the high fives and pats on the back. I’m still feeling the afterglow of accomplishment today.
Auntie E — Yes, I have already thought about trying it myself. That will be the real test. I don’t care for malls either when it’s especially crowded, like now. The heat, the noise, the people. It’s all there in one cramped space.
Shieldmaiden1196 — Oh, you had to remind me about that, didn’t you? I know I missed out on spectacular views because of my fear. I would love to look out over the railing at the canyon and if there’s your cooking in it for me, I’m there!
Babs Beetle — You’re so funny. And I bet all your giddiness would make others nervous. “Is she going to be OK?” Maybe stay away from cliffs, my dear.
Fifthmarch — Oh, now that was just awesome. Thank you! Yea!
ann of the junkdrawerblogfamily — I love your idea of getting prezzies on the way over or once you get off the bridge. You should be in PR and marketing.
Regan — Yes, but you had FUN didn’t you? And you didn’t die! Yea for not dying!
Tracy — Aw, see, you need to go west young lady! And yes, your eyes should really be open. That’ll sort of help. Actually, Heather and I talked about maybe me wearing horse blinders or something. But where was I going to find a pair on such short notice?
Stephanie Barr — OK, irrational fears don’t count. I think you’re safe there. But check your bath water before getting in. Just sayin’.
Unfinishedrambler — Thank you! No maw! No maw! Hey, if you didn’t live so far away, I’d jump in my car this weekend to test my willpower. And have another nice dinner with you fine folks. Did Kim fix the breadmaker yet?
Ron — You put it best: I was annoyed with being afraid of anything. It’s silly. Congrats on getting over the flying thing. You saw how irrational it was and enjoyed an overseas trip. Kudos to you. It’s interesting that so many people don’t like driving over them. I guess my fear of walking on them is because I’m way more prone and “out there” than I am in a car. I’m proud of you too!
Grace — Yes, that’s the one. It’s long, narrow and has a high arch in the middle. I’m actually not sure how I’d do on a small boat. Haven’t had an opportunity in decades.
April — I’ll keep that illustration in my head when I do it again. “Follow the happy face!” I’m sorry about your driving over bridges fear. It’s really hard to avoid them if you must, must, must get somewhere on the other side. I have to cross a different one to get to work and I remember having slight difficulty about five years ago when I suffered from panic attacks. I’m so grateful I don’t have them anymore. I could see how they would be debilitating to some.
Diane — Thanks!
Melissa k — Oh, so sorry about your mom. I can totally understand that. She must have been exhausted by the time she got home.
Cromely — That’s a smart motto to follow and the crux of why I did what I did. I just couldn’t find a reason not to that was rational. And since I had help from Heather, there was no excuse.
Ferd — Hmmm, I’ll have to check my Top 10 Things I Don’t Have the Guts To Do post and see what else is on there I might like to try. Maybe ride a horse? Join a Writer’s Group? You can’t stop me now!
Nanny Goats — Yes, I did! What I really wanted to do was take the picture over the water, but I’m not quite ready for that yet. Even taking it at one end was a challenge, but I did it! Fear of Twinkies? No, fear of Oreos. Cuz those I can polish off in two sittings.
Kevin — I was, wasn’t I?! And it was freezing and the wind was whipping. And I still did it! Hooray!
Waltsense — Tell your friend if I can do it, anybody can. Mind over matter, baby!
Sherry — Tackling fears is hard, hard, hard, but the reward is priceless.
Beamer — Thanks and good to see you again. Merry Christmas to you as well.
cardiogirl — I always think the same thing. Who would want to even walk out on a flimsy balcony that high up? I remember the balcony of the hotel Dave and I stayed at in Paris. The railing had really widely-spaced bars and didn’t look like it would protect you at all. Couldn’t go near the window AT ALL.
Karen — Yes, the main part is the fear of falling. I’m guessing if we fell from a high enough height, you really wouldn’t feel much. Honestly? I’d want to die instead of trying to recover from those injuries. I’m glad you’re better with heights. It’s liberating, isn’t it?
Marg — A feeling like no other. You should have seen the smile on my face when I was done. A mile wide and very toothy! Merry Christmas to you and yours. Thanks for visiting!
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:43 am
The only time I was fearful on a bridge was when I drove to a camp in Pennsylvania. It was a very l-o-n-g bridge with just two lanes and big big drops on both sides of it. I felt like I was flying in a plane! Usually, bridges don’t bother me at all, but that one sure did! I was so relieved to get off of it.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 6:55 am
Congratulations! I have a big fear of driving over bridges. We RV so when we drive over a bridge we are up very high and my husband talks and looks around at everything – scary. I have been known to get down on the floor until we are over.
December 23rd, 2009 at 7:49 am
I’m not fond of heights either, and there are certain places I just don’t go because of that ‘discomfort’. One of them is climbing on rocks near waterfalls. If there is a wall there, I’m OK, but not open rocks where a single step can send you over the edge.
But bridges and such don’t bother me. I think of it like this: the chances of a bridge collapsing under me are less than a car going out of control and running me down on the sidewalk. Bridges do collapse occasionally. But not as often as drunk drivers do stupid stuff.
If I spend too much time worrying about dying, I don’t spend enough time enjoying life.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 8:09 am
Bravo, Kathy, bravo!!!
No truer words have been ever been spoken! You know of mine and you are now my inspiration!!!
BTW, your next test is to walk over that bridge during a high wind!!
XOXO and Merry Christmas to you and all!!
December 23rd, 2009 at 8:35 am
Way to go! I hope bridges are safer than canopy tops, because you CAN get flung off of those things if you aren’t careful.
Do you ever have that feeling, when you are up high and look down “What if I accidentally jumped? I mean I wouldn’t, but if I did, it would be real bad.” Like a sudden uncontrollable urge might overcome you! Have I said too much?
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December 23rd, 2009 at 8:43 am
Couple things: first, I apologize for my beloved calling the PAGC the ‘Maw of Death’. Its only been that a couple of times, I swear. One was intentional (guy drove his saturn through the fence) and I think a couple heart attacks on the trail but that’s IT. Also: ‘Gaping maw of death’ is my line.
Also: confession time– I cannot do the Smithsonian Air and Space Museum, because I walk around thinking “I’m going to fall, something is going to fall on me”– between the glass catwalks and planes suspended on metal wire its Vertigo City for me the whole time.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 8:56 am
Congratulations! Was it easier making it back across the bridge after you accomplished the first crossing? I bet if you do it more often you’ll eventually forget why you were even worried in the first place! I have social anxiety and it makes me miss out on a lot of things because I anticipate how uncomfortable/scary they’ll be. I actually had several sessions of hypnotherapy earlier this year to help me conquer it. (Don’t laugh – it works!) But it was a HUGE step to go to some stranger for help. Even using the telephone caused me major anxiety unless I was calling someone I already knew and was comfortable with. I sobbed through the entire call. I felt like such an idiot, but I couldn’t help it. The anxiety was stronger than I was at that moment. It just shows how desperate I was to be helped that I put myself through that. Thank God it worked!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 9:23 am
Huzzah for you, Kath! That’s the way to do it. And you just have to keep doing it until it’s a total cake walk.
You’ve taken on a lot of these sorts of things in a year, you know. I think it’s terrific.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 9:55 am
That is soooo awesome!! I too have a fear of heights, and you have inspired me to try to conquer it…maybe…sometime next year perhaps…lol! Anyways, thanks for the post, love your blog! God bless! Merry Christmas!!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 10:23 am
You rock girl. This Ozarks farm chick fears storms (went though a tornado age 5, scared the bajeebers out of me). I’m OK with heights as long as I have something to walk, now if I have to step from one roof to another I freeze. Chick statue! I’m in awe of you facin’ your fears…with pics!
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God bless and have the BEST day!!!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 10:57 am
Congratulations! Now could you come here and help me out with Abby? The horns don’t hurt….much.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 11:24 am
Congratulations! I totally understand your fear, I feel the same way. I can make myself do things, climb towers, etc, but I’m a tense wreck the whole time. I don’t even do well on a stepladder in my own home.
But, when you are ready to conquer the riding horses fear, I can set you up!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 12:03 pm
Congratulations! I know how difficult this sort of thing is, as I also do not do well with heights (even after several hikes to the top of mountains and crossing a similar bridge)- your illustration is just the way I think too. I am always surprised when disaster does NOT strike.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 12:43 pm
Good for you!! Have a great holiday season.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 1:31 pm
Good for you! I’m forced by circumstances to confront my fear of elevators every few months. I still freak out. It’s embarrassing.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 1:46 pm
wow, I really admire you. I have a fear of heights in open spaces. yep if I feel air on my face I get sick to my stomach if I’m in a high place. I walked UP to the top of kirabati in aruba, then I had to close my eyes and have someone hold my hand and walk me down backwards. it took me almost half an hour. but for my honeymoon I had dinner in the cn tower in the middle of the niagara falls lakes and that was awesome – because I was inside. yep, I travel everywhere and go outside to look at the scenes but I hate the wind in my face. I threw a fit when I was at the statue of liberty to get into the crown and boy was that a memory I’ll never forget. Good For YOU Girly, and Have a Happy Holiday
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December 23rd, 2009 at 2:30 pm
yay Kathy!! i too have a fear of bridges. and my husband knows this. he has a lovely habit of driving wonky when crossing bridges just to scare me. there is nothing more fun than crossig a bridge with a schmoe making the car wonky!
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happy holidays!
puglette
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December 23rd, 2009 at 2:33 pm
congratulations on a successful day. Victory is yours! Love the visual at the end.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 3:32 pm
Go Kat Go. However, just go on without me. I’m a wimp. I’m scared to death of heights…and I’m also claustrophobic. If someone locked me in a broom closet high up on that bridge, I swear I’d have a heart attack. I’m happy for you though. You rawk!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 3:41 pm
Yay Kathy! You are too brave; I don’t like bridges or anything high. I cringe away from high edges like a scared mouse.
Happy Holidays to you and yours Kathy!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 4:13 pm
LOVED the picture!!!! Thank you for the end of the day laugh!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 4:20 pm
I understand your fears. I don’t have a fear of heights or small spaces.My fear is places I don’t know and I fear getting lost, I cant see really well so if I cant see where I am I get scared.
Two years ago when we traveled to Puerto Vi arta and we went to town one day. I thought I and my kids got lost from my other family. I freaked out until I saw them. I realize I can’t live in fear so I make myself do things too.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 4:50 pm
My stomach is turning and floating when it shouldn’t. It not natural. I don’t like heights…or large bodies of water.
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December 23rd, 2009 at 5:47 pm
What a great accomplishment! Congratulations!
My best friend and I have always both had a fear of heights, or at least we thought so. Turns out my phobia is actually a fear of falling. So when we sit together in a high place, she *has* to look down and orient herself to the ground to feel safe, while I *have* to look up and not look at the ground at all. We are quite the pair together.
December 23rd, 2009 at 6:46 pm
Way to go, Kathy!!! What a wonderful feeling it must’ve been to finally walk over that bridge. Now you can do anything.
So what’s the next fear to conquer?
(I enjoyed reading Capt. Tom’s comment above and agree with a lot of it, EXCEPT! For some of us, medication is effective. Very, very effective.)
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December 23rd, 2009 at 7:53 pm
Go, Kathy, Go!
If you slipped, I bet Windy would come to your rescue. You could hang on to her handle and be spirited away like the big flying thing from “The Neverending Story.”
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December 23rd, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Good for you!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 8:06 pm
Good for you! I’m afraid of the Christmas tree falling over again and of getting bad grades. Did I mention that today was officially the end of fall term? Woo hoo!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 11:34 pm
Congrats Cathy,
The feeling of triumph is overwhelming, right? The worst enemy is ourselves, sometimes because of our fear we dare not venture into things. But once we conquer that fear, we become masters of our own universe. Thanks for sharing this enlightening post. Happy Holidays.
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December 24th, 2009 at 7:13 am
Karen — I had the same problem driving to north PA. The bridges only bothered me because they spanned very deep dropoffs and I felt very vulnerable. Only way I got through it was to stare straight ahead at the road and talk myself through it.
Data Entry Lady — That’s a brilliant I idea. I suggest a blindfold for when you’re in a car and can’t get on the floor.
Tarheel Rambler — I don’t blame you for the rocks thing. And what are you doing climbing rock walls anyway? And you’re right about our chances of dying. 40,000 people die in car crashes every year in the U.S. Those are scary odds. A bridge fall might kill me, but the odds are better I’ll get wiped out by a car. Nice thought, huh?
BabaBooey — And I’m so glad you were there to witness history! I do have a problem with high winds. I had a terrible time of things at the top of the Empire State Building because of the wind. I was actually able to look over the edge at the city, but when the winds kicked up, I ran back to the inner wall and stuck to it.
Daisy — Yes, I do have that feeling. And it runs so counter to what I want to do, which of course is NOT to fall! I hate that our brains can even have such thoughts. Tell Harley to be careful up there!
Shieldmaiden — What a shame that someone would take their lives like that, but I guess if you’re hell bent on doing it, pick a place where you’re certain to die. Glass catwalks should be outlawed. I’m guessing you have no plans to try this, then?
Surfie — It was a tad easier getting back to the starting point. We almost went over it again yesterday, but it’s was freezing cold. Good for you on getting over your fear. You are not alone with that. Many people have social anxiety but are not strong enough to even try for help. Pat yourself on the back. You done good!
Jenn of Many Cabbages — I think when I turned 40, I started to think of how silly it was that I couldn’t do certain things. I didn’t want to live the second half of my life still regretting that I couldn’t go certain places in certain ways. I feel so triumphant!
Marta Daniels — Oh, please do try to get over your fear. There is no greater pleasure in knowing you did the one thing you never thought you could do. Doing this was the best Christmas present I could give myself.
Nezzy — I don’t blame you for being scared of storms. I don’t live anywhere near tornado zone, and am happy for that. I hope you don’t find yourself in many places where you’re leaping from roof to roof, unless you’re a Superhero. Are you?
Pricilla — No thanks! Me and animals do not mix. Especially the horned kind.
Shadowsrider — I think it would be awesome to ride a horse, but I’m not kidding — I need to lose some weight first or that poor horse would sink in the middle.
Lidian — I remember fondly the time my husband and I visited the Grand Canyon, this was before my fear developed. I didn’t have a single problem looking out over the edge. But now? Ugh. And hiking? Out.
grannyann — Thanks and same to you! It’s almost here!
stacey — Oh, don’t be embarrassed. I work with a woman who can’t take the elevator anywhere. She works on the 3rd floor of our building. She’s lucky it’s not a high-rise. Well, she’d probably be in really good shape because no matter what, she will not step foot in one. I understand.
RE A Bad Girl Says — Awww, sorry about the backwards descent. I’ve eaten in the CN Tower, too. Not a problem. But I’m guessing you didn’t stand next to the glass and look down, right? I have trouble with wind as well. The Empire State Bldg visit would have been a whole lot easier for me without the wind whipping around.
puglette — {shakes finger at husband} I’m guessing the only reason you don’t punch him while he’s doing it is so you don’t actually drive off a cliff.
ann — Thank you and YES! Victory is mine. Feels great!
Leeuna — “..a broom closet on a bridge.” What a funny visual. Don’t worry. I’m pretty sure that can never happen.
Maureen — Mind over matter, baby! And now I can approach my fears with a little more confidence. This all started when I took a spring road trip alone and then flew alone. I feel like nothing can stop me now.
Katherine — Follow the happy face…follow the happy face…follow the happy face…
Curtis — Good for you! You still went! And you didn’t get lost! When I flew alone in July, I remember walking around the airport making a million mental notations about where I was headed so I could find my way back to the gate. The further away from it I got, the more empowered I felt. It’s all about making baby steps.
Yum Yucky — So I guess there are no bridges in your future? Hey, not all bridges are over water. Start there!
Phyl — Thank you! Oh, how weird. So neither of you is actually looking straight ahead? So funny!
JD at I Do Things — I can! I can! I want to keep trying walking the bridge and I want to dare to look out over it sometime. That would be a huge move. Medication is probably the only way some people can get through these things. I’m a big supporter of meds if you need ‘em.
Chris — Aw, what a nice thought. Maybe that would be Windy’s little payback for us following her and her story.
MA Fat Woman — Yeah, baby! I’m still so stoked that I did it.
Kim — Stay away from the tree! Congrats on making it to the end of another semester. Think Spring!
Jena Isle — It really is. I DO feel like the master of my universe! And I hope this is only the beginning of my conquering more fears. Totally liberating!
December 24th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
I can relate, Kathy. I use to get awful panic attacks. Bridges, traffic, buildings where I can’t see out windows… My divorce mostly cured that. Mostly.
About 15 years ago I actually walked across the Royal Gorge Bridge. Well, ok, I walked about 50 steps and turned around terrified out of my mind. But still. That was HUGE for me. http://www.royalgorgebridge.com/
And I love Key West and there are 42 bridges from Homestead to Key West. I totally did that! Good thing I wasn’t driving though. Just saying. hahahaha!
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December 25th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
In my younger days I was afraid of heights. I still loved to climb trees, though and just learned to look down. Then in my 20’s I used to climb down very steep cliffs in order to fish on empty, “inaccessible” beaches. I learned there not to look down either. I don’t think yo ever “get over” these phobias, you just learn to do things in spite of them. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas!
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December 26th, 2009 at 12:53 am
Darlin’… I am soooo proud of you!!!! *does high kick, but not while on a bridge*
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December 27th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Good for you, Kathy! I have the same fear. The car side looks pretty scary.
I do not think I could ever, ever walk out on that walkway at the Grand Canyon.
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December 28th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
I’m afraid of caterpillars. The really hairy and colourful ones, they completely and utterly freak me out!
I sew, and I’m afraid of a needle one day breaking and flicking the point up into my eye – luckily I wear glasses.
I knit, and I’m also afraid of one day hurting myself with my knitting needles.
I’m also irrationally scared of things from movies, like the Grudge monster and the demon from Paranormal Activity. It’s ridiculous, I know, but ghosty-toasty stuff scares me!
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December 29th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
Life would be so much easier if we had more easy-to-understand pictorial explanations.
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December 29th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
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January 8th, 2010 at 11:47 am
I have several fears and phobias, driving in certain places like over bridges etc. I also had a fear of dogs too for some reason, not sure why. Last year i decided to do something about these irrational fears and took my friends advice and started listening to subliminal Cds. I was really surprised how well they worked, I’ve conquered almost all my fears in 2009, only a few to go in 2010, fingers crossed
. BTW I got my Subliminal CDs from http://subliminalcd.net if anyone is interested…
January 19th, 2010 at 8:27 pm
I have BEEN on this bridge. Is this in Bethlehem PA????
February 24th, 2010 at 2:51 pm
Great story, and congrats on conquering your fears. I’ve been thinking about whether or not I have any fears, and while I’m not a brave person, I can’t think of any deep-seated, life-altering fear, quaking-in-my-boots fears. I can recall a number of instances when I was afraid, once about getting on a plane, but I had already flown to my destination just fine – no fears. But a week later, I really didn’t want to get on that plane to fly home. Why? I’ll never know. Nothing happened to make me afraid. I didn’t have the opportunity to fly again for about 10 years, but I was fine and have been ever since. And talking about bridges, not walking but being a passenger in a car going across the Huey Long bridge in or near New Orleans. It is slung on a train trestle much like an afterthought. Oh, we need a bridge here. I’ll never do that again! Maybe they’ve fixed it by now – that was a long while ago.
Let me just add that I find The Junk Drawer and your writing very good and entertaining, and I’ve only just arrived. Keep on keeping on!